Hubby and I had everything planned after a year or two of dating: I wanted to be engaged by 28 *tick*, married by 30 *tick* and we’d get pregnant after I’d celebrated my 30th birthday. Hubby was good with this, if anything he wanted to bring the timeline up because he’s a couple of years older than me.
Fast forward to 5 years together, we had gotten married and after we got back from honeymoon we stopped contraception. I’d heard it can take up to a year for the pill to leave your body, if you’d been taking it for as long as I had (10+ years). But we were still being careful as I had my 30th in sight!
Come 15th December 2019, we are partying hard for my 30th, we went to our fave bar, with all my fave people, had a meal, danced and drank – I hadn’t been that drunk in a long while. The next day (my actual birthday) Hubby was ready to start trying. Admittedly when I said we could start trying once I had partied for my birthday, I didn’t actually mean the next day. In my head, it’d be Jan but in reality, what difference would it make? And it wasn’t going to stick the first time now was it…?
How We Found Out
Oh, how it did! After New Years, (which was another enjoyable night with our fave people, this time in our flat, with drinking games), I was late. This never happened, my body was like clockwork. My boobs were massive and sensitive, and I just knew in myself that I was pregnant. Neither of us wanted to jinx it or get our hopes up, so we didn’t mention it at all. We waited the recommended week before taking a test. We took two and both were positive. We were pregnant!
How We Felt
Hubby was over the moon, this is exactly how he pictured it happening: as soon as I was done with my 30th, we’d be pregnant. I was ecstatic too; I’d always wanted to be a mum from such a young age, and I couldn’t wait to meet a little person that was half me and half Hubby.
But at the same time, I was in shock. Does it really happen this quickly? I have to give up alcohol and coffee?! How do I keep it from my loved ones and friends when they’ll know as soon as I say I’m not drinking? Not to mention I had a work trip booked for the end of Jan that I wanted to go to.
So many things to think about, but at the end of the day everything happens for a reason and God’s time is the best – this is exactly what we wanted and such a blessing that there was no way I’d let the logistics get me down!
1st Trimester Symptoms
These are just the symptoms I had, but each woman is different, as is each pregnancy:
- Nausea: I was lucky in the sense that I was never actually physically sick, which was great for me as I think I have a slight phobia of throwing up. But feeling nauseous for the majority of the day was a bit of a killer. It got worse when I got hungry so for anyone in their first trimester, keep those snacks around for easy access. Crackers and ginger & lemon tea helped me a bunch!
- Food Aversion: I love chicken and salmon but during my first trimester I couldn’t stomach them. Even the smells of some cooked veg that I love put me off and made me feel sick. Just listen to your body: whatever it’s not feeling, just don’t do it to yourself.
- Fatigue: the tiredness was real! I was never one for naps nor was I the type to be tucked in bed by 10pm, but I would find myself falling asleep anywhere and everywhere. To and from work, on the sofa at 9pm, during the day on the weekend, I even needed a nap before going out! Again, just listen to your body and sleep; so many changes are happening in your body to accommodate a little human being, you’re allowed to be tired.
- Cramps: Something you don’t think about beforehand is that your body has to make room for this tiny human you’re about to grow, so your uterus expands during the 1st trimester to make room. This tends to cause a bit of discomfort but it’s totally normal.
- TMI ALERT – Constipation: This is one I never knew about and trust me it’s not fun. It’s to do with the increased hormones in your body so eat as much fibre as you can, otherwise, you’ll end up like me. I had gone 2 days without any bowel movements but I was like it’s fine, I wasn’t always regular before getting pregnant, so whatever. On the 2nd night, admittedly after enjoying a McDonalds, I was sick. A lot. I also had the worst pain in my left-hand side (it felt like I had a UTI but on steroids, thanks to the throwing up). After spending the following day throwing up and not eating, we went to a maternity A&E unit (because as soon as you know you’re pregnant and something is wrong, you automatically worry about losing baby, #dontjudge). After doing tests, I was told it might be constipation… They gave me a laxative and sent me on my way. A few days later I was fine and able to eat again, but it was not a fun experience.
As I said everyone is different and I am by no means an expert, so for any further info, check out the NHS Start For Life site.
When & How We Told Everyone
The first people we told, funnily enough, were not our parents, but my best friend and sisterwife. Her 30th was the end of Jan (2 weeks after we found out) and there was no way I’d get away with not drinking in front of her, so as we were getting ready with her and her husband, we told her. We got her a small aunty card and wrote in it as if baby had written it and popped a picture in there of Hubby and I holding the pregnancy test. The card had the desired effect and they were so happy for us, so we did the same with my parents and brother.
My mum’s birthday was a week later so when we took her out for dinner with the immediate family, I got her to open a card from baby too and that’s how we told my side of the family. It was such a joyous occasion. The next day we went round to my mother-in-law’s to tell her and my brothers-in-law.
As it was my first time being pregnant and only the first trimester, we didn’t want to tell anyone else just to be on the safe side, but I couldn’t go on the work trip, so I had to tell my managers.
We’re so excited to be starting the next chapter of our lives together, so we’ll see what happens over the next couple months.