• mum guilt
    Black Parenting,  Mum Life,  Perseverance,  Self Doubt

    Mum Guilt: The Main Things I Would Do Differently

    Mum Guilt: ‘that pervasive feeling of not doing enough as a parent, not doing things right, or making decisions that may “mess up” your kids in the long run.’ Healthline.com Mum guilt is real. When you have kids you properly second guess every decision you make thinking everything might have a negative impact on their wellbeing or development. Now, almost 10 months in, I can say my confidence is growing but there are still things that make me face palm when I think about it. All the shoulda, woulda, couldas, that shouldn’t be dwelled upon too long, creep their way in at the most unhelpful times; when you’re over tired,…

  • 9 months
    4th Trimester,  Black Parenting,  Mum Life

    9 Months In, 9 Months Out: 9 Months Of Parenthood

    Bubs is now 9 months old….wow! Really, where has the time gone? It is true what they say; the days are long but the months are short. In other words, when you’re in the thick of it, the sleepless nights, the doubting every little decision you make, the frustration, finding the new you, it is beyond hard. It is lonely. It is a total mindf***. But then you get to the other side and your mind wipes it all away and you are back to feeling yourself, better than yourself because you’re a new version of you. So welcome to a new and improved Mrs. A. Mrs. A. 2.0 if…

  • Birth and Delivery
    4th Trimester,  Mum Life,  NHS,  Pregnancy,  Whipps Cross Hospital

    Positive Labour And Delivery Story; It’s A Girl!

    I had originally planned to film my whole labour and delivery story but as things happened so quickly, we didn’t get the chance to, so I decided to vlog about it instead. In my last post I was a week past my due date and wrote about what the plan would be if I had to be induced, but haven’t given an update since. (Coincidentally the post went live the day I went into labour, funny how things turn out…) This post is so late, it was meant to go up when little bubs was four weeks, but mum life is so hectic, let me tell you! You essentially have…

  • Due Date
    3rd Trimester,  Mum Life,  Pregnancy

    Our Due Date: It Came & It Went, Now What?

    Like so many women out there, my due date has come and gone with absolutely no signs of labour coming on any time soon… Also like many women out there, I have had messages since the due date to be like ‘anything yet?’ or daily calls from my momma to check in and see if everything ok. Like I wouldn’t tell people when things kick off…. On the one hand its lovely as people are just as excited as we are to meet baby. But on the other hand as I’m not stressing about baby ‘being on time’, especially as Hubby and I are always late, everyone else should be…

  • 2nd Trimester
    2nd Trimester,  Mum Life,  Pregnancy,  Symptoms

    2nd Trimester Update

    I feel like I floated through the 2nd trimester in all honesty. Lockdown, for me anyway, meant less stress, more relaxing and more time for me and Hubby, which I think has allowed me to enjoy my pregnancy properly. To be honest I haven’t really had any symptoms of being in my 2nd trimester. I am well and truly in my third trimester now and throughout the last three months everyone’s been asking how I’ve been, if there’s anything to note. And my honest answer has been: “nope, not really. I’m fine”. Since my 1st trimester, I’ve had no mood swings mood swings, no crying at ads/shows/movies, no cravings, no…

  • nursery
    Bargains,  Mum Life,  Pregnancy

    Nursery ‘Tour’

    It’s been a couple of weeks guys as I have been getting sorted to start work as well as sorting out the house, not just the nursery but also finishing touches in our other rooms. But I am super excited to be able to share with you our little nursery for baby! Again these are not sponsored/ads, everything I mention below, we bought with our own monies. Nursery Furniture: I love all things Mamas & Papas! I know they’re a little more on the pricey side, but think their items are beaut and great quality. So of course we bought all the nursery furniture from there. We started off looking…

  • black mother-to-be - BLM
    Black Parenting,  Life Lessons,  Mum Life,  Pregnancy,  Race,  Speaking Up

    A Black Mother-To-Be: The Harsh Realities

    It’s been a really difficult week as a black woman in the world. That coupled with the fact that I’m a black mother-to-be of a child that will also be black, the events of the past month have weighed heavy. No, I’m not in the US, but that doesn’t mean institutional racism doesn’t exist here in the UK either. I was always raised to be proud of who I am, where I’m from and what I look like. My father is very political and was more Malcolm X than MLK back in his hay day. The first time I went to Ghana (my mums Ghanaian), I was 6 and we…

  • happy baby
    Being Heard,  Mum Life,  NHS,  Speaking Up,  Whipps Cross Hospital

    Whipps Cross Hospital – My NHS Experience (Part 3)

    We’re making progress! I had my phone consultation with a midwife from Whipps Cross Hospital on Thursday and I cannot tell you how much better we feel about sticking with the NHS for the duration of our pregnancy. We had a lovely woman ring (Swee Harris is her name), bang on time, and went through everything in so much detail, she: explained that I would be getting a new file and therefore my first appointment would be at Whipps Cross Hospital to get my height, weight and to test my urine and blood, as well as pick up my file. made sure I was taking Pregnacare and told me which…

  • excited baby
    Being Heard,  Complaint,  Mum Life,  NHS,  Pregnancy

    My NHS Experience…(Part 2)

    In a post earlier this week, I wrote about issues I had with a couple of NHS Trusts, hoping to be able to update you all in the not so distant future. Well, I do indeed have a bit of an update for you. It’s shocking how quickly you get a response from a body when you contact their CEOs directly. (If you ever need to find the contact details of a CEO, then look no further; I’m telling you it’s the best way to raise a complaint!) I sent my complaint email to both Barking, Havering and Redbridge NHS Trust, as well as Barts Health NHS Trust on Monday,…

  • Baby Show Live
    Bargains,  Haul,  Mum Life,  Pregnancy

    The Baby Show Live @ Home – Our Haul

    Last weekend The Baby Show, despite lockdown, were able to still hold an amazing event, virtually! They launched The Baby Show Live @ Home which was great for me, as I thought lockdown would mean no baby shows for us at all. It was an amazing event full of talks, advice, competitions and The Baby Show was giving 20% off all products. Though it ran across the whole weekend, anyone who knows Hubby and I, knows how lazy we can be. In true A. style, Saturday was a right off, I was shattered and Hubby wasn’t feeling doing anything at all (kind of annoying as I wish he would pick…